Relationships are an important part of living a balanced life. But during the holiday Christmas season, relationships can lead us to feel a host of uncomfortable emotions. If you are experiencing stress in any one of your relationships (i.e., romance, friends, or family), it’s easy to feel like a major part of your life is out of balance. During the Holidays, you might feel obligated to spend time with people you are
Marriages and long-term relationships require work if we want them to survive. In my last post I talked about three strategies to help strengthen your marriage. In this post, I’ll discuss three more strategies. They are all based on data from a longitudinal study by Dr. Terri Orbuch and her colleagues. Dr. Orbuch, a professor, therapist, and research scientist, is also known as The Love Doctor and she has some
Making the decision to get married is arguably the most important decision that someone can make in his or her life life. I’m by no means an expert on the topic. But, what I’ve quickly come to learn is that what makes a marriage work is not just about finding and choosing the right partner. It’s about working on the marriage. There is a lot of valuable information out there on what makes marriages work. Whether it
There are many fathers who face tremendous challenges – within themselves and society – when they try to connect with their families. A couple of weeks ago, I had the privilege of presenting at the “Engaging Fathers” conference in Seattle, Washington. The goal of the conference was to bring awareness and find solutions to help fathers engage with their families. It was encouraging and inspiring to see so
Think of everything you know about sex. Everything. Chances are, most of what you’ve ever learned, or heard, came from the work of William Masters and Virginia Johnson – pioneers on researching sex. Another influential researcher was Alfred Kinsey. In fact, William Masters was inspired by Kinsey’s work. While much of Kinsey’s research was done via interviews with thousands of men and women, Masters and Johnson
For the last couple of months, I’ve been working with a lot of individual clients on the issue of marital conflict. Although I don’t do couples counselling, I do work with people individually on their relationships. To prepare for those sessions, I usually refer to work by Dr. John Gottman – a pioneer in the field of marriage counselling and research. In his book, The Marriage Clinic Dr. Gottman shares powerful
Imagine you are in the early stages of a romantic relationship. The two of you have been spending much time together in person – almost every waking moment, in fact. When you are not together, you do whatever you can to stay connected – through email, texting, phone calling, Morse code… Then, one day, your partner tells you that they’re going to spend the evening without you. “Will you at least text or call me?” you
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