Before I go into describing my blueprint or model for living a balanced life, I need to be clear about something. I work at balancing my life every day, and I ’ll hav to continue working on it throughout life. That’s just a reality. Having a balanced lifestyle is not something that you attain once. It’s a continual work in progress. The date stamp on this email will likely say Thursday, Dec. 6, 2018. My goal for rele
As you may have noticed, I’ve been writing more in these last few weeks than I have in several years. I’ve also been taking a stab at developing a YouTube Channel (You can find all four of my videos there). Because of the long gap in my writing schedule, I thought I’d share what happened in my life these last few years, and how it’s clarified where I’d like to go with my writing. Dreams can come tru
For the next few weeks, I’ll be focusing on the relationship between your thoughts, behaviours, and feelings. These are the main aspects behind cognitive-behavioural therapy (or CBT). The power of your beliefs The cognitive model, which is at the foundation of CBT, says that what you believe about yourself has a tremendous impact on your life. It influences how you interact with others, how you see the world, and how
What is common amongst anxiety-based disorders (e.g., social anxiety, OCD, panic disorder) is that it’s often caused by distorted, negative, critical, and biased ways of thinking. To be more specific, when you are feeling anxious your emotions are being influenced by what and how you think. This is the central principle and theory behind cognitive-based therapies, such as cognitive-behavioural therapy. So, what’s the
Have you ever been so frustrated that you ‘felt your blood boil’, ‘got all steamed up’, and ‘started seeing red’? While we have a wide range of colorful expressions about how emotions can affect us, there’s a grain of truth in these phrases — because our emotional states can have a significant impact on us physiologically. Stress can negatively impact just about every part of our bodies. Stress can make it harder to
Marriages and long-term relationships require work if we want them to survive. In my last post I talked about three strategies to help strengthen your marriage. In this post, I’ll discuss three more strategies. They are all based on data from a longitudinal study by Dr. Terri Orbuch and her colleagues. Dr. Orbuch, a professor, therapist, and research scientist, is also known as The Love Doctor and she has some
Loneliness is one of the most uncomfortable feelings anyone can have. I remember one of the first times I experienced loneliness. I was 26-years old and had just moved to a new city for graduate school. It was the first time I lived on my own. It was Spring Break, and while most students take the opportunity to go on vacation or spend their time with friends and family, because I was new to the school and city, I had
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