A few weeks ago, I talked about a strategy I share with my clients for managing anger. This was to respond instead of react. Today, I wanted to share a tip that can be used to manage anger and/or stress (the two often occur hand in hand). It’s about recognizing the difference between acceptance vs. agreement. Acceptance vs. Agreement I don’t agree with everything that everyone says, and by the same token, not
Even with all the counselling and personal consulting I provide on the topic of anger, I still experience anger like everyone else. Many of the same things that trigger your anger triggers mine as well. Some clients get surprised when I tell them this. Their perception is that because I’m a psychologist who specializes in anger management, I must never get angry. This is when I have to remind clients that anger is a
Recently, I had a conversation with someone on the topic of anger. He wanted to understand why he was always so angry in his relationship with his partner. So, I pulled out my dry-erase whiteboard and drew an iceberg. I think the iceberg is a really powerful metaphor for how we think, feel, and behave. According to most estimates, about 10% of an iceberg is above water and about 90% is below water. This means that we
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